Sorry for the off topic rant/question but I'm a bit disturbed this morning.
Yesterday was my wife's family reunion, and of course everyone who didn't know the situation asked where I was. After telling them, the next question was "when is he coming back?"
No one asked her "when are you going out to join him?"
Why is it assumed that I have to come back? Doesn't anyone think that, with my mom's deteriorating health, that maybe I (and technically we) should be out here in Arizona to help her. Moving her back to PA at this point would possibly be a major stressor that I'm not sure she would survive, and dumping her in a nursing home and leaving is something I will not do.
I know my wife doesn't want to move out of state, but sometimes we have to do things we don't like. If the scenario were reversed, and it was her mom who needed the help, I would go wherever we needed to go to help out.
I know its a touchy subject, but im looking for outside thoughts.
What do you all think?