@RDM...thanks for this, overall I agree with your sentiment, though not all that you say. That's fine, as you say here one is free to disagree but at least politely. And I must respect you as a fellow native Ohioan!! I do find the divisiveness in general in this country to be harmful and depressing, and I'm sure most anyone would feel the same. As I've said in other comments in the past, my views definitely lean solidly left, and always have. Without getting too much into the weeds here, I'll say that I never cared for "both-siderism", thus letting one group off the hook by saying another one "does the same thing". With that in mind, I'll state it is my belief that the divisiveness is heavily weighted on one side these days. The current administration is a perfect example of this, and it is not only divisive, but actively promotes and incites such. I know that wades into being very political, but it's also simple fact. There was a very good Washington Post article some years back by Thomas Mann and Norman Ornstein (not exactly flaming liberals) that went into this problem in some detail.
Though my views are more liberal, I have always felt that, give me a conservative party (call it Republican, call it Whig, or whatever) that remains grounded in fact, does not deny science, does not constantly fight the culture wars, and does not view their political opponents as illegitimate. I may still disagree with most of their policy, but at least it would be possible to have a discussion and even come to some kind of middle ground and mutual respect. When it's simply impossible to hold a logical, intelligent discussion because they cannot even respect you, that's a real problem for me. I feel, unfortunately, that that's where the current "conservative" party is today. Heck, my older brother is more conservative than I am. We talk a lot, and we argue at times, sure...but he's also reasonable and not an ideologue. We agree on a fair number of things, though to varying degrees. And what we don't agree on, we still respect that. Likewise, there are some liberal friends where I just cannot go with some of what they think, or they may be too "purist" in their views, refusing to see that compromise is part of how stuff gets done...and that there are reasonable conservatives out there.
Part of the problem may be that in this country, we have two parties and that's it (yes, there are 3rd party candidates, but other than on a local or state level at most, they don't go anywhere). We don't have anything like a parliamentary system as they have in Great Britain or elsewhere. So when you are presented with candidates, they are realistically one party or the other...that's your only choice if you want a chance to get one or the other into office. There's no "coalition" type of government in the legislature, really. I'm not by any means saying that going to such a system is a panacea or will cure all our political ills, but just an observation.